The worst thing one can do to human beings is ignoring them. The worst death is from the slow agony of neglect. Here is some advice on how to survive neglect.
What is neglect?
Neglect is defined as paying no attention, or too little attention, and disregarding a person or a cause. It’s bordering with disdain, rejecting, or failing the trust of a person. Come on, we all know what neglect is and that from personal experience. Have you ever been so in love that you can’t find two matching socks in the morning and your beloved did not even fancy your existence? That’s neglect!
Have you ever made love for an entire night, only to learn on the next day, that he is not that much into you? That’s neglect! Have you ever protected your personal space by avoiding certain people – here you are doing neglect…
Why is that a bad thing?
Since we all do it and suffer from it…and suffering makes you spiritually evolved – what then is wrong with neglect?
Nothing, if you are able to deal with it in a timely and effective manner. Everybody has the birthright to neglect you, but you don’t need to let the plague of neglect take your life and confidence.
But how? Does it depend on you?
First, think of the broken relationship that causes neglect. It’s a dead thing and your attempt to save it remind of stuffing the poor thing like a dead animal for the museum. Come on, this is not necessary. Just take a deep breath and let go! Good job!
Now, disengage yourself from the relationship. Yes, you are among the quick! That’s the good news! You are completely whole and free and open for other wonderful adventures coming your way. Once you have felt your wholeness and balance, it is time to shift your focus. At this point, you are telling to a friend what happened and laughing together about it…and he gives you a lovely piece of advice: focus again!
Just don’t focus on the one who has rejected you. Since he is hurt and trying to escape your focus, you will focus on nothingness and that hurts like hell. But it is not necessary! At all! You can focus on something else. It can even be something pleasant, and full of romance, charity, adventures, creativity, love, love and love. Maybe a new project, a hot cup of coffee, the perfect dance. A bowl of cherries, new friendship, a surprise…a family event, a theater show…really it could be thousands of things.
Notice the people about you. I mean everyone – the concierge, the tour guide, your sister. Give them gifts of attention, and notice how it all comes back showering at you. Really, there are lots of people, who want your consideration, and that can save you from the spell of neglect.