Emotional Health Aspects
Emotional Health, otherwise known as “well-being” stands for being able to create for you a life that is balanced, cheerful and spiritual. Emotionally healthy individuals are extremely resilient and have personal powers; they are stable and very positive, they smile, and there is magickal brilliance in their eyes.
Being Smart
It has to do with how you react to different irritants, as well as your levels of self-confidence and maturity. You have to release the past and stop worrying about the future and tap into the present with your full potential.
Emotionally intelligent people do not freak out in critical situations; there are always solutions up their sleeve. They are sexy and naturally confident.
Stress
Stress is most often defined as psychological tension and it is a state, which is costly to the individuals. It contributes to various illnesses of the emotions and the body.
Stress has got ways to physically maltreat you: headaches, breakouts, high blood pressure, ill digestion, difficult metabolism, lack of fertility…you have been warned!
The major cause for stress all around the globe is money. Even very rich people feel financially insecure.
But How To Deal With Stress?
In order to handle it, you must learn to make realistic choices and accept the things you cannot change. For example, if you are stressed because you have given your heart to someone, who did not appreciate it – try to give a chance to someone who wants it. Also you need to be able to laugh at your imperfections and failures and not take yourself too seriously. For laughter is the natural medicine: it releases all the happy hormones.
Take some time to organize your daily round, for multitasking usually means screwing up several things at once. Then do take some effort to organize your space.
You can study a bit of Feng Shui and decorate your dwelling – creating a stress-alleviating environment. You may create a yoga corner, or a terrace garden. Taking care of flowers is also very pleasing and comforting, as is the making of pots, baking bread and anything else that involves your hands. Painting, aromatherapy, different hobbies such as crocheting socks and table cloths or chess, hanging out with friends, music and dancing, chocolate, even chewing gum…all of these can help you alleviate stress.
Depression
It’s the cancer of the emotional self. Depression is not a synonym for sadness – it is the plague of the emotional diseases.
The word “depression” literary means “to press down.” Depression twists your thinking – during this state the mind can play tricks on you: you may even have suicidal thoughts. It makes it hard for you to give…all you can think about is the pain you are encased in. The depressed person is anxious 65% of the time and persistently irritable.
Depression can occur because of traumatic life experiences – grief for a lost one, a pet, physical or mental abuse, social rejection and conflict can all be reasons for depression. It is further facilitated by traits like low self-esteem, being overly critical to oneself and even changes in weather.
Depressed people get colds frequently. Energetic, vibrant and relaxed people are immune to cold and flu. The more homework the child has got, the most likely it is to suffer from depression.
Exercise is the easiest and least expensive treatment for depression.
Aggression and Anger
“Anger is a gift!” Zack de la Rocha
Actually it is a very complex emotion. It is not entirely unhealthy or destructive – and to manage it does not mean to keep your mouth shut. It is usually a response to being hurt, frustrated, irritated, fearful, annoyed, rejected or insulted. Angry people feel like breaking and destroying the environment.
70% people spend their nights remembering conversations, imagining what they should have said instead. Don’t hide your anger. State your emotion; ask questions, converse… this builds trust and fondness among people.
Fight if you have to fight, but observe the rules: no name calling, no interrupting, no blaming, no yelling, no sarcasm, no defensiveness, no generalizations, no threats, no walking out.
Humor can help deal with anger. It combats anger naturally and efficiently. Have you noticed how two people, who are quarreling are intensely amusing to the rest, who see the situation clearly?
Another way to deal with anger is acceptance:
Eckhart Tolle says: “The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace becomes transformed into peace. Anything you accept fully will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender.”
Altered States of Consciousness
This is a term for a state of mind, which is significantly different from the typical waking state. Commonly they are induced by psychoactive drugs – alcohol, cannabis, opiates, hallucinogens or meditative practices.
Russell Brand: “Drugs and alcohol are not my problem, reality is my problem, drugs and alcohol are my solution.”
During an altered state of consciousness one loses the sense of identity with their own body and with their normal perceptions. It can be achieved by chanting, meditating or psychedelic drugs. The testimonies of mystics who claim that altered states of consciousness brought them enlightenment or transcendence are accepted with great skepticism among scientists. The shaman or mystic uses them to access parallel realities and the spirit realm, where they can barter with spiritual entities or battle dark energy for the benefit and healing of people.
Some causes for the altered states of consciousness can be sleep deprivation, staring at a candle, or standing on one’s head.
Attachment
Buddhist philosophy claims that attachment is the root of all suffering. Once you get attached you are screwed…
According to Tenzin Palmo, attachment and love are exteremely different, in that Love says: “I want you to be happy,” and Attachment says: “I want you to make me happy.”
Deepak Chopra says: “Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you are in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.”
Couples Therapy
Treat your partner as your favorite literary character – you desire to know everything about her: from dreams to favorite movies, to when does her menstrual cycle start. You have to maintain a positive appreciation of her and express it.
Try a six second kiss. Create rituals of connection – eat breakfast together, spare time for a movie night.
A friend once told me, that a person needs 4 hugs a day to survive, 8 hugs a day to feel good, and 12 hugs a day to prosper.
Whisper to her: I will never finish falling in love with you.
Dance Therapy
Yes, Sir you can boogie your way out of depression. While you dance you enjoy the luxury of being yourself. Dancing makes us living, sensitive and creative human beings, it also develops our intelligence. It involves the space, the rhythm, and your physical energy. Dancing and music therapy help people cope with everything.
Desire
Birds do it, bees do it, even educated fleas do it…
Being desired and attractive feels very good – in fact euphoric.
An eager desire is often revealed by the gaze. Eye-contact – this is how souls catch on fire. It gives you the signal that you are fucking gorgeous. In order to be desired – you have to be carefree and relaxed, positive and fun. You also have to be confident, a conversationalist, passionate about different subjects, natural, you have to value and pay attention to your health and use lip balm.
Yoga teaches us among other stuff how to deal with desire. With desire comes action, and with that action comes attachment, which causes further desire, and that’s a vicious circle. Yoga sees desire as a tyrant, its fulfillment can only come from the heart.
Fear
Fear means simply that you care too much, in that it is not a bad thing and should be accepted, similarly to anger. To fear is a reaction of the spirit, but to act courageously is a decision. Fear feeds on inaction, indecision, the unknown, feelings of unworthiness, impossibility, lies, negativity and perfectionism. And when you do not face your fear – it becomes your limitation. Fear is your mind’s way to say that there is something important that should be overcome. So, you need to embrace fear.
Mindfulness
It began as a Buddhist tradition. It is a sitting meditation technique, which focuses on breathing, bodily sensations, and mental relaxation. Now it is recognized by psychoanalysts worldwide as a form of therapy – it has got a number of health benefits: it fights depression, anxiety and it helps regulate emotions.
How To Stay Emotionally Healthy
In order to stay emotionally healthy, you must rely on positivity. Optimism, hope, acceptance, connection, gratitude, purpose, and meaning are the basis of emotional stability. You also need to master your environment, since clutter and procrastination create a lot of stress. Exercise, mindfulness and happy habits have to be included in your daily activities – since physical personal care is also vital to the individual. The most important is the positive mindset:
When I accept myself, I am freed from the burden of needing you to accept me.