Have you ever felt lonely in a company?
Have you ever felt so out of space on a party that you wished to take a French leave? Everybody is in good cheer, and you are sitting silently in the corner with no creative peace on your mind. You wish you were as entertaining as the leader of the group, yet you feel blunt, envious and dull.
That’s one way to look at this experience. But you may also feel comfortable about that. Just imagine you are a different type of person: smart, silent and mysterious. You take delight in watching the spectacle of others; you are balanced and calm and you do not need to show off and be the center of attention. You are cool!
But if you do want to be the life of the party – here are some tips from people who know how:
1. Talk to people about them!
Ask questions about what they are eating, what do they do, their mood, their families, their daily round, the things they like, the things they hate, the things they can’t go without. Encourage them to speak to you by being positive to everything they share. Make them feel comfortable and accepted. Smile!
2. Surprise people.
Surprise is the magic set in the human sense of humor. We humans laugh at surprises and often at each other’s misfortune. So lavishly share your miseries with others – they will appreciate it. Of course – no real trouble – real trouble is annoying, real drama is personal. But you may share the story of how your excrements one day went green and how you researched that online – to find an entire forum of people with the same problem.
3. Talk to everyone and tell them things you know about the others. For instance – Guys, do you know what he works? Can you guess in two tries? You would never believe – he is a poker player! He even wins contests. You would never have guessed only by looking at him!
4. People don’t want to know what’s up!
“I hate small talk. I want to talk about atoms, death, aliens, sex, magic, intellect, the meaning of life, faraway galaxies, the lies you’ve told, your flaws, your favorite scents, your childhood, what keeps you up at night, your insecurity and fears… I like people with depth, who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don’t want to know ‘what’s up.'”
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if you want advice for your situation.